Welcome to Janus

SOJ is a not-for-profit, all volunteer, San Francisco-based education and support organization devoted to the art of safe, consensual and non-exploitative BDSM.

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June 2012 Growing Pains

NEWBIE Coffee Social June 11th - We're here for you ! The summer fun is just beginning. Be a part of it all!

Summer solstice rituals, incantations, ceremonies. And the Queen’s birthday to boot. Lots of fun things ripe for some good clean kink fun this month. How you can join the party?

Visit us at the Society of Janus’ Newbie Only Coffee Social (NOCS). We’re meeting this month on the evening of the second Monday, June 11. We start at 7 PM.

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6/17: Mollena Presents Self-ish Submission: Why your Needs Should be Nourished



Sunday, June 17th, 2012
6:00 PM to 8:00 PM (Doors open at 5:00 pm)
Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission Street, San Francisco

$5 Janus members and reciprocal organizations, $15 all others

Please note: you do not need to be a member to attend. Janus programs are open to all attendees 18 years of age and older who have a personal, positive interest in BDSM.

About Our Program

This exciting and timely program is presented for the Society of Janus by Mollena.

As submissives and slaves, we often approach our relationships from the viewpoint that the ultimate goal is to meet the needs of our partners, and in that way, have our own needs met. While this seems a lofty goal, fully abandoning one’s own needs and wants may not bring the blissful surrender you seek. Sometimes? We need more. Feedback, affection, focus, attention. In power exchange relationships (Hey, they’re called ”exchange” for a reason!) there needs to be an ebb and flow, a give and take that fulfills all parties involved. Knowing what you need, what it takes to achieve your needs, and expressing them clearly can help you be present and fulfilled in your relationships.

We will discuss ways to handle questions such as determining:

How do I know what I want?
What would happen if I have my needs met?
What would happen if I do not have my needs met?
When does serving another become compromising myself?
How do I know when I’ve gone too far?

This discussion will revolve around assessing, categorizing prioritizing and supporting your needs and your wants, and discovering what you are…or are not…willing to do to have these met.

About Our Presenter, Mollena Williams

This “Delicate, Trembling Flower of Submission” © is a NYC born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller and an Award-Winning Executive Pervert. She is extremely proud to have served as International Ms Leather 2010. She is also thrilled to have been named Ms. San Francisco Leather 2009 after that contest’s decade long slumber.

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SOJ Orientation - Wednesday June 6th 7:00 - 9:00 pm

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Orientation meetings are a fun, low-key, non-threatening forum where prospective members to the Society of Janus are presented with the history and guidelines of the organization, and introduced to current members and to each other.

The meeting will be held in the Castro Community Room, which is located inside the Bank of America building at 501 Castro Street (at the corner of Castro and 18th) in San Francisco, just next to the bank of ATMs.

RSVP's are appreciated but not required, to:
orientation (at) soj.org

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Wednesday, June 6 - SOJ Presents Expose: Kinky Show and Tell

Wednesday, June 6, 2012
8:00 PM –10:00 PM
Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission Street, San Francisco

Doors open at 7:30pm

Please note: you do not need to be a member to attend. Janus programs are open to all attendees 18 years of age and older who have a personal, positive interest in BDSM.

About Our Program

Show and Tell your Toys and Techniques!

In this interactive social event, bring a unique toy to show, or be brave and tell everyone about a unique play technique.

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April 2012 Growing Pains

Wednesday May 9, 8-10pm: Pain Lab: What hurts?

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When: Wed., May 9, 8 –10pm, Doors open at 7:30pm
Where: Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission Street, San Francisco
How much: $5 for Janus members and reciprocal orgs, $15 all others

About Our Program

What hurts you particularly? What kinds of sensations does your body enjoy? Are there sensations that only hurt under certain circumstances?

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Take the 2012 Janus Member Survey. Change your kinky world in 20 easy minutes.

This survey is for current Janus members only.
Survey 20112

The Janus Member Survey is now waiting for you online or, upon request, can be mailed to you in printed form (see your May Rapid Release or instructions below). 

Will completing your survey really make a difference? Absolutely!

Your responses will help guide Janus leaders in developing new and better programs, social activities and services, starting now.

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