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I'm looking for the best book or resource on doing suspension safely. If you have recommendations,
I'd really appreciate it.

There are a lot of rope bondage books out there that mention suspension, but (as far as we know) none that deal with suspension singularly. We'll list a few books we like for general bondage below.

I am interested in BDSM, while I don't know a whole lot, I want to know more and my husband is not interested. Is there anyway of easing him into this lifestyle for both of us? I would like to experience certain aspects of BDSM because I feel like am really missing out of a lot of pleasure it could give us both. Is there any thing I can do at home to get him interested? I feel like I need more, and without him even learning and trying anything about this lifestyle, I will miss out of it all together. PLEASE - any help is appreciated.

How do I know if I'm topping from the bottom?

The term "topping from the bottom," sometimes called "topping from below," refers to a submissive/bottom's attempt to exert control in a consensual power exchange dynamic in which that individual has ostensibly surrendered their control. This behavior is generally non-negotiated, manipulative, self-centered behavior and tends to be frowned upon (and should not be confused with negotiated "brat play," which is not covered here). "Topping from below" can happen in a scene or in a long-term relationship.

I've recently been introduced to the "kink scene" or the "BDSM scene". Those names make sense to me as far as my understanding of kink being related to exploring sex, role play, specific activities and social events. I've also seen the name "leather scene" and that is the part I don't understand. I have no interest in leather. In fact, I don't consume animal products, so wearing leather clothing is something I would never do. So what exactly does "leather scene" mean compared to "kink" or "BDSM"?