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Ask Janus: Is dirty talk kinky? How do I ask if it's okay to talk dirty?

Posted Fri, 07/10/2009 - 22:15 by askjanus

Is dirty talking considered a kink? I'd like to learn more about it and get better at doing it. I think it could be really fun but I don't want to offend anyone with things I want to say. One thing is that I think the word pussy is juvenile and I'd like to tell someone what to do with their cunt as dirty talk. I'm not sure if I should ask them before if it's okay to use that word or if it would be more hot to just spring it on them when we're playing. Do you have advice?

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Ask Janus: Kink, BDSM and Leather - Which is it?

Posted Thu, 07/02/2009 - 08:13 by askjanus

I've recently been introduced to the "kink scene" or the "BDSM scene". Those names make sense to me as far as my understanding of kink being related to exploring sex, role play, specific activities and social events. I've also seen the name "leather scene" and that is the part I don't understand. I have no interest in leather. In fact, I don't consume animal products, so wearing leather clothing is something I would never do. So what exactly does "leather scene" mean compared to "kink" or "BDSM"?

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Ask Janus: New to the Scene - How to Meet People

Posted Sun, 05/17/2009 - 22:32 by askjanus

I'm a new to the area 28 year old submissive man. How does it work with the different events that you have? Can anyone go to classes and parties? It would be cool to meet up with someone, preferably a woman and dominant. How do I meet people?

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