Event Guidelines

Please review a full copy of our Party Rules below as well as the SOJ Consent Guidelines prior to purchasing your ticket.

Accessibility

  • There will be music playing at a volume that fills the space, but isn't blaringly loud. Ear plugs will be available if desired.
  • There will be colored lighting in various areas, but we avoid rapidly shifting colors.
  • The first floor is fully accessible and has social and play space. The basement is only accessible via stairs and has more play equipment.
  • Discounted Community Access tickets will be made available to those with financial need. To request a Community Access ticket, email janus@soj.org
  • Have additional accessibility concerns? Please let us know. Email janus@soj.org

Inclusivity

Society of Janus is and always have been an organization made up of the community and in service to the community. We are stronger for our diversity, including adults of all genders, orientations, colors, ethnicities, roles and experience levels. We welcome all who have a genuine interest in kink and who respect each other's rights to self-expression, self-exploration, and authenticity. At each and every one of our events, we will strive to maintain and enforce a respectful and safe space for all attendees in celebration of this diversity, and expect the same of all attendees.

There is zero tolerance for hate speech of any kind. Attendees who are not able to abide by our house rules will be asked to leave.

Consent & Respect

  • Do not touch anyone or their belongings without explicit permission, even if they have given you permission in the past. This includes any part of the person, hair, clothing, toys, equipment they have brought, hugging, etc.
  • Do not use pet names, honorifics, praise, or potentially violating terms without explicit permission from the involved person(s).
  • Inclusivity and diversity are core to SOJ's mission. We aim to provide space for folks of all genders, sexualities, races, abilities, ages, religions, and more. There is zero tolerance for hate speech of any kind. Respect sexuality, gender identities, and pronouns. If a person has a name tag on, please call them by that name unless explicitly told to use another.
  • Do not engage in any play or activities without enthusiastic and informed prior permission. For specific consent guidelines, please see more at: https://soj.org/consent/
  • Do not engage in any negotiations, play, or activities while or with someone intoxicated (NOTE: alcohol and other substances are not permitted at this event).
  • Every participant in a scene has the right to withdraw consent at any point.
  • Be self aware. Don't let your conversations or volume in play areas disrupt scenes. Don't direct any unsolicited comments at people who are playing. Do not interrupt scenes, including attempting to join or otherwise engage or negotiate with people who are in a scene.
  • Watching should be done from a respectful distance with no leering.
  • No masturbating, except when involved and agreed upon as part of a scene.

Safety

  • The house safe word is SAFEWORD. Calling SAFEWORD will call for help from outside the scene.
  • Suspension is allowed on appropriate hard points and rigs only. Self-suspension on those elements is allowed with prior notification to the DM on duty.
  • If your scene will include wax, blood, knife, or sharps you must talk to the party host and make sure you have a safe area and needed supplies for safety and cleanliness. Wax play may not utilize candles.
  • If your scene will include consensual non-consent or the appearance of lack of consent, you must inform a DM before playing.
  • No drugs or alcohol, including smoking or vaping, are allowed within the party. Outdoor smoking and vaping may be allowed in designated areas at certain venues (please check with the hosts).
  • Anyone visibly intoxicated will be asked to leave without credit or refund.
  • Do not lock people into or onto equipment at any point.
  • If you are unsure if your scene may break a house or venue rule, please find a Dungeon/Play Monitor or Party Host and ask before playing.

Prohibited Play

The following forms of play are NOT ALLOWED.

  • Breath play involves restricting someone's breathing, often as part of a kink or BDSM scene. This can include choking, smothering, or other methods of breath control.
  • Piss play, also known as watersports, involves using urine as part of a scene, either by urinating on a partner or other variations involving urine.
  • Scat (fecal) play involves the use of feces in a sexual context. This could include smearing, consuming, or incorporating feces in other ways during a scene.
  • Fire play involves the controlled use of fire or flames on the body or in the play area. This can include fire cupping, fire flogging, or other forms of playing with fire.

Etiquette

  • No Cell Phones allowed. If you need to text or take a call, step outside to do so.
  • Recordings and photos are prohibited at SOJ play parties except by designated house photographers at specific events.
  • Equipment is first come, first serve.
  • Reserving equipment is not allowed.
  • As our spaces are shared, please be conscientious in how long you utilize any single piece of equipment for.
  • Clean up after yourself.
  • Use preventative measures – floor pads, condoms, gloves, etc. to minimize spread of bodily fluids.
  • Use the provided cleaning supplies to clean up and sanitize all equipment used after playing.
  • Dress in street-appropriate attire until you are inside the play venue.
  • If you see something, say something. If you have any questions or concerns, find a Play Space/Dungeon Monitor (orange armband or safety vests) or the Party Host.
  • Thank you for helping us keep our community safe!
  • If you have any questions or concerns, find a Play Space Monitor (orange arm band or vests) or the Party Host.